My life of BDSM began in New York. I was a mere 21 years old and still in college
when a group of us would frequent the popular S/M clubs. I used to just go and watch
–a complete voyeur! Later, I started going by Myself when the novelty wore off for
My friends. I was intrigued and wanted to participate, but didn't know how to get
involved. I decided to do a paper on S/M while in school, and made an appointment to
visit one of the local BDSM clubs in the city. I interviewed the ladies, and even
did a few "cameos" during My jaunt. I was impressed by the intellect and creativity
of the Mistresses. For them, having men grovel at their feet all day was a way of
life. I asked if I could come back for a second interview. This time I fully
participated –commanding slaves to do things for me, to satisfy whatever desire I
had at the moment, and then punishing them if they didn't meet My standards. I was a
complete natural! I loved having that power and I felt that I deserved it. It was as
if I had found My place, My home. I took a good long look at My life up to that
point and realized that I had been dominating men on some level all along; only I
didn't know there was a name for it.
I used to humiliate one boyfriend in high school by making him do a strip show for
Me, and then whipping him with a belt if he wasn't "dedicated" enough. I also
remember taking another high school boyfriend to a shopping mall dressed head to toe
in women's clothing. Hmmm, I wonder how it shaped their lives?
Back at school, I did My paper on BDSM (which left a classroom full of dropped jaws
and an A+ for me) and went to work at this dungeon. A few of the ladies showed Me
the ropes, so to speak, and a Domme was born! I acquired a stable of slaves in the
Big Apple and was sad to leave them behind when I made the decision to sew My
sadistic oats out west. After a brief stay at the famous Velvet Underground, I chose
to take up residence at Lady Laura's Dominion. The Velvet Underground was a
wonderful place, but more for the established Domina. I was pretty much starting
over. Laura's was great to Me and a really nice place to play. They really were
responsible for introducing Me to the L.A. scene. I loved the Dominion so much that
I stayed there for 4 years before venturing out on My own. In 2000, I ended up
renting from Simone Justice in Hollywood and became part of the legendary Justice
League that included Simone Justice, Gemini, Nicolette Rule and Domina M. During
those years, I learned and grew more than I ever had before, and made life-long
friends.
In 2005, I co-wrote a book called HOW TO BE A DOMINANT DIVA that received quite a
bit of national publicity including but not limited to coverage on: The O'Reilly
Factor, Redbook Magazine, David Lee Roth Radio and Kevin & Bean. HOW TO BE A
DOMINANT DIVA focuses on giving couples the inspiration and tools to explore
eroticism, role-play and power exchange in a way that is exciting but never
intimidating! It's is an innovative sex book full of 69 frisky, daring games that
challenge couples to stretch their sexual boundaries and boost their bond. Check out
www.dominantdiva.net for more info or you can buy the e-book on Amazon.
I've been a dominatrix for 20 years now and continue to hold a stable of slaves.
Most of the slaves that are new to Me have done their research and are extremely
compatible. I have molded My style and demeanor over the years to what I am now. I
know what I want out of a scene and I go after it. I love the adrenaline rush and
endorphins that I get while playing. I love being under the rule of My world. I love
being served and have grown to love some of My slaves. If and when I decide to leave
the pro-scene, I know that it will always be a part of My personal life. I learned
that I cannot live without it and it is a part of who I am.
